Narcissism

Family is the foundation of society. A happy and healthy family breeds fruitful results. The beginning of creation featured a man and a woman. A leader and a helper. Through the course of history, there has been corruption. Only 46% of people are raised by their biological parents. People are either missing a leader or missing a helper and that has corroded the hearts of our youth. Unfortunately, not all people who have both parents have a healthy and happy home. The leader helper dynamic may have turned into a control freak and a people pleaser. A control freak becomes narcissistic and the people pleaser becomes codependent. The narcissist is the master and the codependent is the slave. The pleasing is a one-way street, and the master orchestrates the way the relationship develops in a diabolical way. The framework of a master-slave has been at the forefront of a familiar dynamic. It’s in history, it’s on your television, and it may even be reflected in your own home.

People are trying to be masters while slaves are upholding them. This is not only reflected romantically, it is in friendships, and it can be ingrained into many dynamics in society such as the workforce etc. If two people go to an amusement park there is usually a leader and helper. If you have two helpers together, they may hardly go anywhere, and if you have two leaders it will be a challenge to find satisfaction. Why? One of them will have to go against their design to assist the other person and therefore are less likely to garner satisfaction. When you go against your design you become a master or a slave inevitably. For those who do not believe in true love, master or slave is the only dynamic as possible means of survival and togetherness.

How do we resolve this? Perhaps we need to learn about what true love is. True love is loving the truth of who you are and honoring one another’s position. Perhaps if we can restore the leader and helper dynamic and incorporate empathy, we will have less narcissist and codependents. The restoration will make narcissism and codependency an unfamiliar dynamic. Real love will be an attainable dream and not an alternate reality that does not exist. Fantasy will not be the only means of happiness, but merely a distraction from true love and pure happiness.